Remember the old adage, “People need loving the most when they deserve it the least”? When I hear or read those words, I understand the basic truth, but come on….isn’t this one of the most difficult things to put into action? I mean, if a person’s general demeanor is negative, and does not care one bit if he offends or hurts me or anyone else, am I really expected to treat him lovingly? The short, Christian answer is YES!
Let me first say that I don’t recommend spending time with an abusive person, when your very safety is involved. However, there are other ways of loving. We will get to that…
In my personal life, there have been family members, friends, co-workers who seem to relish the idea of making me personally feel uncomfortable, or maybe have an abrasive, negative personality toward everyone in general. You know the kind of person – it’s the one who makes you cringe when she is walking toward you, the one who relentlessly gossips about most everybody, or who constantly shoots stinging remarks, instinctively knowing how to push the proverbial button on everyone she comes in contact with. It’s a human defense strategy to back away from people like this, and if you are at all like me, you put up a defensive wall to protect yourself from the pain or embarrassment this person may cause you. I usually find a way to avoid these people.
So…people need loving the most when they deserve it the least…what does that mean to me?
I have learned that when people truly love, respect, and accept themselves – love, respect and acceptance will shine from them toward the people they interact with. Since they are aware of their own personal value, they tend to value each person in their lives. They will still make mistakes and hurt people occasionally, however, when they are made aware of hurting someone, they are sorrowful and ask forgiveness.
On the other hand, when people do not love, respect and accept themselves, they are not happy deep inside, so they don’t have too much love to share. Which leads me to the “Somebody Loves Me” act of love for the day…
Make today the day to send love to that one person who just rubs you the wrong way; or that person who is so negative, you can hardly force yourself to spend time with him/her. Love can be sent in many ways; I will share some that have worked for me.
The first and most important way to love is to PRAY for that person. Yes, pray that the Holy Spirit fill his heart with total love, that he will feel the love of Jesus. Ask the Lord to send His Holy Angels to guide him toward Jesus, and to protect him from satan. Also pray for healing for that person, whether it be physical, emotional, or spiritual. As you pray for him, you will eventually feel a softening of your own heart toward him.
The second way to love is to ask questions. Ask him about himself, get to know him. Really LISTEN to what he says. You may get a clue as to what he has experienced in life to bring him to the place he is now. I have learned that the people I have the hardest time with have usually suffered and endured painful, horrendous things in their past. Once I know a little of their story, I find more compassion in my heart for them.
Other ideas may be sending cards (even anonymously), little thoughtful or funny gifts, or simply flashing a genuine smile.
So, let’s make this the day to take a step forward in unselfish love.
Please share your ideas of ways to help a person know “Somebody Loves Me”. God will magnify your efforts!
Matthew 5:43-48 You have heard that it was said, ‘Love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, that you may be children of your Father in heaven. He causes his sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous. If you love those who love you, what reward will you get? Are not even the tax collectors doing that? And if you greet only your own people, what are you doing more than others? Do not even pagans do that? Be perfect, therefore, as your heavenly Father is perfect.
1 John 4:7 Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God.
1 Peter 4:8 Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins