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Cleansing Waters

On days that seem “blah”, and times when I am feeling “stuck”, it always helps to list out some of the blessings in my life.

Today is one of those days.  I am looking out my window at work, and everything is SO grey.  There is a big black cloud hanging over the area, and I just want to say, “Go ahead and let it fall…just rain already!”  Maybe if it finally decides to rain, the sun will come back out!

But still, the dreariness remains, and the rain hasn’t started yet.

So I thought it would be a good time to make a list of some blessings…the rays of sunshine in my life.  Thinking of these things help me to  shine from the inside out….whether or not the sun is out!

Here we go with some of those blessings:

The love of Jesus in my heart (what else do I really need?)

I woke up today! (God is not done with me yet)

My wonderful husband, who is my biggest blessing on earth

Nice warm, cozy bed

Hot shower

Availability of clean water

Healthy foods…and unhealthy, but yummy desserts

Wonderful, beautiful family and friends

Good health

My job (also my husband’s job)

Ability to help some people in need

My sense of humor…always important to get me through the day!

The blessings of sight, hearing, touch, smell, and taste; so I can appreciate the world God placed me in!

Last but not least…the blessing of forgiveness.  No matter how many times I fall, the Lord is always right there with me, ready to shower me with the cleansing waters of forgiveness…so my soul can once again shine brightly with His rays of love and grace.

Help me Lord, to always have thankfulness in my heart for all the blessings you bestow on me – even the ones I do not see as blessings. The difficulties and struggles make me stronger and cause me to rely on You in a deeper way.  Help me to also remember all of your children around me, who are in need.  I ask that you fill my heart with love and compassion, and a spirit of giving, so my life can be a blessing to them.  Amen.

 

Giving thanks always for all things unto God and the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ;   Ephesians 5:20

To open their eyes, and to turn them from darkness to light, and from the power of Satan unto God, that they may receive forgiveness of sins, and inheritance among them which are sanctified by faith that is in me.  Acts 26:18

 

 

 

 


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How Can I Help?

How many times have you wondered how to support a friend or relative who has taken on the role of caregiver? Or maybe you would like to offer your assistance or friendship to that special senior citizen that just can’t get around like they used to? Every time you see them, the same thought swirls through your heart and mind – “how can I help?”

Sometimes it’s so hard to know exactly what to do…even when your heart is in the right place.

I’ve been thinking about this, and would like to provide you with some concrete ideas that would be helpful and much appreciated to both the caregiver and the one who is being cared for.

Just so you know where I am coming from, let me give you some background of my current situation. I can only offer thoughts based on my personal experience. However, I believe that most, if not all of the suggestions, can be applied to most scenarios.

My husband (Joe) and I have been married for 35 years. We have two grown sons, who are now married and out on their own. This was to be the time for us to enjoy our “newfound freedom” and revel in our alone time. After all, our marriage had its ups, downs, and struggles, and we made it through, victoriously! Our sons are the joy of our lives, and we are so proud of the men they’ve become and happy that our relationship with them and their wives is still strong. However, when they  moved out, they were ready to be out on their own, and we were looking forward to some long awaited “alone” time.

Plans have a habit of changing. About 10 years ago, my father passed away after many years of fighting heart disease. My parents had been married almost 50 years, and were inseparable. My mother lived in Ohio, and we are in Virginia. Joe and I traveled back and forth for about a year to help her as much as possible, but it was obvious that she could not live on her own. Mom was getting weaker, she did not have a driver’s license, the neighborhood they lived in for most of their married life was no longer a safe place, and my sisters were unable to help. The decision was made – mom would sell her house and live with us in Virginia.

My husband and I are very blessed to have my mother with us. I am learning things about her life that I would never have known if she was not here with us. We have become much closer than we’ve ever been.

However, the stress that I feel as her caregiver is a feeling that I’ve never experienced. I am responsible for my mom’s health, social life, emotional well-being, physical care, finances, doctor’s appointments and medications. I am also her personal assistant for anything that she might need. We’re talking extra things like buying and mailing cards, shopping, wrapping and shipping gifts, scheduling and providing transportation for hair appointments, and trips to the library, etc. I feel completely stressed and worn out, and at the end of the day, there is not much left for myself or my husband.  Sometimes it feels as though my life has ceased to exist, and now everything revolves around my mother’s care and what she may need.  And, yes, we both work full time jobs.

 I know there are many other caregivers out there that are struggling with these same issues and could use some help. After a lot of thought, I came up with some ideas that I feel would be helpful.  These are ways we can all help each other, to brighten someone’s day by sharing our hearts.

• When offering assistance or respite help, don’t leave things as “let me know when you need help”. It is extremely difficult for the caregiver to ask for help. Instead, give your friend the times and days you are available and plan for the time.

• A homemade meal or dessert would be much appreciated. Be sure to ask if there are any special dietary needs/restrictions, and let them know when you will be providing the meal.

• The caregiver could use some encouragement. Finding personal notes and “thinking of you” cards in the mailbox are a great pick me up!

• If possible, offer to take their loved one for an outing. She (he) will enjoy the time out with you, and the caregiver will relish their time alone.  Some ideas: Bingo, shopping, lunch, ice cream cones, hair appointment, manicure, pedicure, senior center, Church events, walks

• Schedule some time to visit one on one – play a favorite card or board game…just the two of you. Or bring over a few favorite movies. Plan in advance so the caregiver knows she will have some time to herself.

• The elderly often feel alone, and especially miss getting personal mail. A warm and friendly note, some family photos or a small gift mailed to them periodically will brighten their day!  Find out if there is anything they may collect or need. (It’s fun to see the look on my mother’s face as she unwraps a new Barbie or Beanie Baby to add to her collection! And she also LOVES Word Search books…she never has enough) It doesn’t take a lot of time or money to lift spirits!

• Much of the time, when caring for a loved one, money is very tight. A gift basket, gift card, or movie tickets would be very much appreciated by the caregiver.

• Maybe you have a friend, relative or church member that feels drawn to ministering to the elderly. Let them know of your elderly friend that could use a visit or card. You’d be surprised how networking can work miracles!

• Listening is one of the most powerful and loving ways to show your support. Listen with love, compassion and a nonjudgmental spirit.  Every heart has a story to tell!

Every day the Lord is whispering ways to show His love to a world in need.  May He continue to open our eyes, ears and hearts so we may touch the people He places in our lives.

James 1:27 – Pure religion and undefiled before God and the Father is this, To visit the fatherless and widows in their affliction, [and] to keep himself unspotted from the world.

Ephesians 4:32 – And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.

John 13:34 – A new commandment I give unto you, That ye love one another; as I have loved you, that ye also love one another.